At 25, it is believed that you have lived a quarter of your life span. You are a quarter centurion, well done!
If you are a man, congratulations!, your life just started. If you are a woman, brace yourself, you just inherited a ton of “bird watchers”. 😕
A bird you have become.
Figuratively, you have become a bird. To be watched by everyone and anyone. Questions would start pouring in. Questions without boundaries. Questions on love, sex, and marriage.
You are African, you can’t escape
the intrusion of others into your life.
You can ignore it or fan the embers.
A child belongs to the community they say, and the community loves 💓you.
In as much as these intrusions are born out of love.
One may have to grow a thick skin,
to appreciate this communal “show of love”.
No matter what comes your way, always rememeber to be yourself.
Doshelles 
Wonderful post . Keep it coming
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Thank you for the encouragement.
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I’m proud of you my love, you shall excel in this by the grace of God.
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Thank you Aunty. 💓
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This is phenomenal ❤️ There’s a lot of truth to it and a great advice – not to loose oneself.
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Yes darling. Be nice and respectful but never loose yourself.💓
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A concise description of bird watchers that connotes deeper reflections of our culture as Africans. Keep writing please, you are of the old bloc.
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I am blown away by your comment 😀Thank you sir. I will keep them coming.
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Awesome write up. I will always be myself. Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you Joseph, you said it and you did it.
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Awesome scribbles!
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Thank you Kaycee
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More inspirations darling. You are a bomb
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I am happy you that you are inspired. Thanks love.
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I hope you soon get through the ‘bird-watching’ phase.
I can hardly remember what it feels like to be 25. 🙂
Many thanks for following my blog, Ngozi.
Best wishes, Pete.
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🙂 Thank you Pete.
Yes, I got through the ‘bird watching’ phase.
I am 25 plus 7 now 😀
‘Bird Watchers’ is dedicated to younger women.
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In Africa, It is believed that a child belongs to the community. The community keeps watch on the child ( especially the girl-child) to ensure that as the biological clock ticks, the girl-child steps into specific roles. This “bird watching” role is all important and not changing any time sooner. Ngozi, thank you for the advice to the African girl-child to always be herself in all these.
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This is an interesting take on the subject matter. I’m thrilled 🙂. Your comments are always insightful. I look forward to reading more of them.
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It is the same in India. Though bird watching begins at 16. People have too many questions about everything personal. Studies, live, marriage, babies…I close my ears and live
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😀, that’s a healthy way of handling it: close your ears and live. Overbearing, and overprotective families (sometimes friends), that’s one thing our countries have in common. 😆
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